Posted by Diane on October 23, 1999, at 12:37:56
In reply to Daughter's inapropriate sexual behavior, posted by Gigi on October 20, 1999, at 8:29:02
"my husband is a very prominent physician in a fairly small town-he also is in complete
denial that anything is wrong. This is not something that I want anyone here to know
about.How selfish can you get! It's not your life or your husbands life that is in jeopardy here!
You are thinking about you and YOUR needs. You are scared your daughter is going
to embarrass YOU. How greedy
Your daughters life is just beginning ...she needs to be your number 1 priority.I think you, your husband and his clients and the town will survive and they will FORGET
but YOUR DAUGHTER MAY NOT.try this page
http://netaddiction.com/cybersexual_addiction.htmI have never had a relationship with my parents because they were and still are
superficial fakes . Everything is a façade (even among themselves). How they look and I
look to the outside world is all that matters. The number 1 priority. Consequently you
do not do anything ANYTHING that might cause a second glance or thought.
Nothing out of the ordinary. No exceptions to the rule.You need to somehow gain her friendship. Or somebody does. She needs someone
who is not going to shame her further than she has already done her self. Someone
who respects her as a fellow human being (not as an insignificant 14 yr old).
I'm sure she is feeling shame. Shame will clam a person up tighter than S-200 glue.Seems to me that being that your husband is in the medical field he should be able to
get her EXCELLENT help. I'd have a big old talk with him if I was you. Put your foot
down! Don't let him dominate what will or will not be done. This is a group deal.
Everyone should have equal standing in a family.I am surprised that having the Police involved didn't wake her up! Whew!
What did the Police do anyway? Did they track down the 18yr old boy?Is she sexually active? or is this strictly keyboard weirdness?
In other words does she really know what the heck she is talking (typing) about?
Where is she getting all her ideas? She must have some sort of real life experience.
Now that! I'd be freaking about. Where there's smoke there is usually fire, right.Is your daughter a loner? She's got big problems if she is. She needs friends, friends,
friends right now. She needs good people around her.
Does she like school? Does she have any particular subject she's crazy about?
Find out what those subjects are and run with it. Get her away from the keyboard.Get her some kind of under the table job (I know she's under age but I'm sure in a
small town something can be worked out). Having a job will make her feel worthy
especially if she is not doing well in school or is a loner, depressed etc. It will improve
her all the way around.
Candystripers?How about hormones? Over active ones. Have some blood test taken.
Is she into drugs? Ecstasy(MDMA) that's a sex drug right?
I remember when I was 14 & 15 my parents sent me off backpacking in Yosemite for
2 weeks with some church group (all teens, 3 adults). What a blast! Introduced me to
nature, health, myself, others, all kinds of other things. I backpacked on my own for
years after that (until a black bear got to my brand new kelty pack).
I know that is just a temporary diversion but who knows what she might get out of it.
She might become the next Anzel Adams! Definitely get her a good camera!If all else fails just ask her "Why are you doing this?", "What are you getting out of this?"
Invest in some content blocking software (CyberPatrol© and NetNanny©, SurfWatch)
There's all kinds out there. Ask your local school board what they use.Diane
poster:Diane
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