Posted by Noa on January 9, 2000, at 10:18:59
In reply to Re: Obsessing.., posted by S. Suggs on January 9, 2000, at 5:36:44
Janice, sometimes the biggest step is just to notice the obsessive thoughts, and be able to say "oh, yeah, I recognize that kind of thought". And in this case, to try to tell yourself you can forgive yourself for thinkging them and forgive your brother for not being a perfect Dad. I wonder if something triggered the anger and you weren't sure what it was, so your brain "goes looking" for a reason, in this case, something became evidence of your brother's inadequacies as a Dad. Also, did this reverberate with recollections of your own Dad? Could there be things you see in you brother that are triggering feelings from your own childhood, feelings that you can't find specific memories for, which happens a lot because our feeling memories are better than our thought memories. Renee and dj had good suggestions. Are you in therapy?
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