Posted by Cam W. on March 14, 2000, at 7:20:42
In reply to Is it all falling apart??, posted by Nikki on March 14, 2000, at 5:53:10
Nikki - Many of us have been where you are now. I am fortunate to have a very tolerant and understanding wife, but this doesn't mean she hasn't threatened to leave on many occasions in the 12 years we have been married. (I can be such a bastard when sick - and sometimes when not sick). A new marriage is difficult at the best of times, but when one has a psychiatric problem it can be much harder. What the two of you need is counseling. I would recommend someone skilled both in marriage and in psych disorders (or someone as close as possible). A counselor with professional training would be the best. This has helped my marriage stay together. Getting a guy to go to counseling can be difficult, but if he really loves you he should be willing to do anything to keep your relationship together. If he runs and won't listen at the first sign of stormy weather, then he may not be worth buying a raincoat for. He has to come to grips with your illness, as do you. Working together the two of you can help speed you into remission, you just have to learn the techniques to do it. Also, with the doctor situation. Pester him/her. Tell your doc that you don't think the therapy is working. Ask what non-drug methods he would recommend you try. If he/she has no answers, maybe see if another doctor will. Ask you current doc for a referral. Others on this website will probably have more and better recommendations for you. Wait a couple of days and see what replies you get. There are many knowledgeable and caring people on this site. In the meantime, keep your chin up (or as high as you can at this point) and keep in touch. Best of luck and NEVER give up. - Cam W.
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