Posted by FP on April 5, 2000, at 12:46:39
In reply to The husband thing again..., posted by NikkiT on April 5, 2000, at 11:58:43
Yes, it sounds like you SHOULD leave your husband. He's a royal, grade A bastard, alright.
And he's got you feeling so down on yourself, you can't figure a way out of the situation.
But their IS someone who can "wave a magic wand," sort of. A divorce lawyer. A talk with a good divorce lawyer will help you figure out how to leave the creep, one step at at time. They are used to dealing with all the issues of "where do I go", "what will I live on", etc. A lot of what they do (and what your husband will wind up paying for, not you) is provide support - they know they are dealing extremely vulnerable, emotionally fragile people.
Talking with a supportive person who can help you do what needs to be done, in person, will probably make you feel strong enough to take the next step. And the next.
No one should be put down, disrespected, or just plain treated rudely. Period.
You've only been married 4 1/2 months; what if you get pregnant? Would you want a child growing up in your environment?
Go ahead. Pick up the phone book. Make the call that can change your life. (Sorry to sound like a TV commercial).
I'll be praying for you - FP
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