Posted by Nancy on May 17, 2000, at 15:34:54
In reply to Re: Self-destructing again?, posted by Kathie on May 17, 2000, at 14:48:03
> Good advice Kathie.
I agree, it will be difficult not to depend on the new guy, but look at it as a dual relationship. He too probably has issues that needs working on.
I know this must be hard, but try not to focus on the events that occured i.e. mom leaving, but focus on the future.
Nancyvoni,
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> Unfortunately nobody but you can know if you made the right decision staying in Tx with your new boyfriend but you. It does, however, sound like he is a very supportive person and perhaps at your age it is time for you to break free of your mother. It is normal to miss her but in adulthood we generally try to cut the apron strings and strive for a little more independence. Be careful you don't substitute your dependence on your mother to your boyfriend. Perhaps making a new start for yourself and your family will be just the thing you need to feel better about yourself, to give you a little more self esteem!
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> Good luck to you!
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> Kathie
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