Posted by andrew on May 29, 2000, at 2:31:24
In reply to question for everyone, posted by kathy on May 29, 2000, at 1:57:45
My mother told me it is safer to remain anonymous in on-line chat rooms. I am surprised so many people here share so much. For me anomynity lets me share more of myself than I would otherwise. I still worry that someone will breach the viel and connect on-line me with real-life me. Some people from on-line discussions do meet, but if you scroll back a couple archive pages to the "We Love bob" thread, some folks talked about how we can make up things about our on-line friends that are mostly fantasy. We do that in real-life relationships too, presuming someone is all we ever hoped for, until the wedding presents are buried in the lower cabinets and a couple of fist-holes in the wall are already plastered over.
Sorry about the abortion trauma. First he tells you he will stay if you abort, then he leaves anyway. Add that up and you might soon figure you are better off anyway. One minus zero equals one. Zero meaning him. And it was a tough thing to do, but that is one child that will not have to live with him as a father. Maybe he will do better next time, but lucky you don't have to be the one to try and fix him. Sweetness, maybe you two were just not a good match. Guess what...you get another try. If you take your time and use what you learned this time, you might, just maybe score a match made in heavan. More likely you'll get just enough to make it all worthwhile, but whatever.
Shortly before I was divorced, my wife was pregnant and worried about the timing of the pregnacy. Me, being given to stark speach, (I'm actually boBB, but I upset so many people with that handle, I didn't want to use it on the index page) but, me being boBB and really blunt, I said, something like If you don't want the baby get an abortion. Well, I just wanted to tell her she had options. I did not want her to abort. Well, it didn't sound that way to her, I guess. I was just tired from working outside in severe winter weather and wanted to sleep. It was an off-hand comment and she probably would've left for umpteen other reasons as well.
When I was younger I dated a girl who had four or five abortions, including one of my children. Another girlfreind used pennyroyal tea to induce menstruation of what might have been one or two fetuses of ours. (ladies, don't try this at home, its very hard on the internal organs) Now I have pretty low attachment to my children, but that's not gonna stop me. Its Memorial Day. Lots of guys we are gonna remember today dropped bombs on lots of innocent people, including women and children. What happened to you was a tough break, but the fact that you are reaching out indicates you wanna get through it. Best of luck. I'm signing off for tonight. Sleep tight. I'm gonna sleep past noon. I bet you have to work. Seems like lots of medical workers check in here. What's up with that?
hi, CarolAnn, Kathie, Tina1, Noa... ya'll are all cool.
poster:andrew
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