Posted by Alan on June 3, 2000, at 13:28:33
In reply to Therapist Relationship - Cindy W., posted by Sara T on June 3, 2000, at 13:01:06
> Cindy,
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> A while back we had a thread going on about transferance and the differing relationships people have had with their therapists. You mentioned discussing some of you feelings toward your therapist with your therapist to be able to use them in your therapy. Did you ever do so? How did it go?
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Yes Cindy I was thinking the same thing. I recently wrote a note to my former psychoparmacologist/therapist suggesting the same thing you'd do about it - that it would be "theraputic" to understand why this was happening and see if we couldn't understand it together and make some progress.
Wow was I surprised - and hurt quite deeply when she said in an e mail to me to try to work through it with my talk therapist. I was crushed. Do you think I was expecting too much? Did she not want to handle such a situation? Did she feel partially responsible for the situation by her revealing so much to me that I would eventually become attracted to her?
She said that no more communication would be appropriate since she was not my pdoc anymore - even though I simply stated that I wanted to have an appointment to clear the air - that it was troubling me still from about a couple of years ago when we were meeting. I'm really confused.I've had a couple of other female pdocs that this didn't happen with....
Alan
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