Posted by shar on June 17, 2000, at 15:20:35
In reply to 3 Days and Counting, posted by harry b. on June 16, 2000, at 10:07:15
Isn't it ironic that when we take care of ourselves by taking necessary leave or whatever, it can be perceived as a "mess" by employee or employer.
I am 100% in favor of you filing whatever complaints or grievances are necessary in order to achieve what is due you: equitable treatment. You are absolutely correct about your employer needing to follow rules, and there are restrictions on penalizing people without cause.
I totally understand your being scared. I would be, too. I still encourage you to go in thinking you deserve to be treated in a civil and decent manner, you are worthwhile, and if your employer tries to screw you -- nail them, in your polite way, of course.
You don't have to hang your head down. Your time away from work was necessary. You have nothing to be ashamed of, period. Hold your head high, keep breathing, remind yourself that you are a worthy individual that should not be treated poorly.
Please keep us updated, and I will wish you strong vibes, and feeling together, and the ability to put yourself out there and say hi to people, and hold your head up, to shake hands and say you're glad to be back.
You don't need to get into details with anyone. If someone pries, have your response ready. "I appreciate your concern, and I'm glad to be back."
or "It is so good to see everyone. Glad to be back." It doesn't really have to make sense, you don't owe anyone an answer. You can even say "Oh, I was wondering how you've been?"
UBU
Shar (I'm wondering if you work for gov't. agency? I do, and this sounds very gov't.)
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