Posted by Greg on July 4, 2000, at 11:20:24
In reply to Re: Cutting episodes, posted by Kerry on July 4, 2000, at 2:39:31
Gang,
I've read many articles on cutting, many views, many different opinions. The one real constant seems to be the feeling that the person who cuts feels like they are punishing themselves for feelings or behaviors towards others that they feel are inappropriate. It seems to be rarely directed toward how they treat themselves. God, I hope that made some sense...
Am I way off base here? I'm sure that each person's reasons differ in their own situation. Please educate me? I have a dear friend going thru this right now and I desperately want to understand, even if I can't help.
Greg
> > I don't go raging, I don't lose control, in fact it's the only time I really feel IN control.
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> Tina--from what I understand about cutting, this is exactly it--the cutting behavior demonstrates control. It's perhaps the one thing in your life you feel you can dictate/manipulate (not in the negative sense--just in the sense that we want to be able to control what's happening in our lives). I know that might oversimply your exact situation, but this is just what I've read and observed based on my own experience.
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> I think you've initiated (or re-started) an important conversation.
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