Posted by shar on July 14, 2000, at 1:37:07
In reply to Feel like a failure and get depressed about it, posted by Thomas W on July 13, 2000, at 8:15:04
I don't know if this will help, maybe a temporary help, but I noticed a lot of "black and white" thinking in your post. That is not a criticism, I do it, I bet most people here do it or have done it.
Using phrases like "failing at everything I do" and "I never learn the lesson" or "we are getting nowhere" doesn't leave much room for the few good things that might be happening to get in there. Or the good things you are doing to be acknowledged.
I am an old hand at thinking in this way. The first step is awareness. It sounds like you are pretty aware of your issues, and need a good forum to talk about them. Have you told your psych. how you feel?
Whether or not you find another doc or go on or off antidepressants, I encourage you to keep on posting here. I'm sure many people can relate.
Think a good thought about yourself every once in a while!
Shar
> I don't know how to put this but I feel like a failure
> at everything I try to do. I'm very critical of myself
> and have very high expectations for myself; and inevitably
> it opens me up for depression and anxiety, etc. I'm not
> taking meds for depression, do take some xanax inconsistently.
> I was a database administrator and now am a data security
> mgr. as my job responsibilities changed; not to my liking. I have
> been hard on myself about that but I had no control over it.
> That's the way most of the stuff is that I beat myself up
> over; I have no control over it. I never learn the lesson.
> I see a psychologist now but I think we are getting nowhere.
> Is there some med out there that may help self hating types
> like me? I've tried some of the a/d's but I quit them
> due to the side effects that made me feel worse about
> myself. I feel like I'm in a vicious circle w/ no way out.
> Growing weary with life. HELP
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