Posted by kerryB on July 16, 2000, at 3:02:28
In reply to To KERRY B., posted by Kath on July 15, 2000, at 15:44:11
> Hi Kerry- I read elsewhere that your med Z-----is really helping. I'm so extremely glad for you. Do take care. Hope you have a nice weekend.
>
> Hugs, Kath
Hi Kath!
Thankz for your well wishes. Yes it has been a long haul for me, well it seems that way, but finally, they have given me the right combination and I feel really great for a change. That's why I'm into everything at the moment, painting etc.
How is everything with you and your family? Hope your daughter is still doing well on her meds!!
The trick is, to stay on them even if you feel you are better!!!!! It doesn't take long to get back to square one when you stop them for a while!!!
I got you last post this-morning but I had to go to work and didn't have time to reply! I'm still dirty about having my free day taken away from me, but, I'll get over it just like I do with everything else.
I bought myself an Aromatherapy Teddy today. He comes with a bottle of nice smelling oil and you put a few drops on him and cuddle him when you go to bed. Don't know how hubby"s going to take to that hahaha!!!! It sounded like a nice idea and IT IS something for myself!!!
How is your son? It must of been so sad to hear him crying to himself!!!! It sounds to me like he knows exactly what situation he is in, but has no control over it, do you think? He is starting to sound like he is going to break soon, for the better I mean as I think he won't be able to last this out much longer. If only he would go to see the cousellor or someone he feels comfortable with and talk it all out of his system. It would take a few visits but it's what he needs.
I was just thinking today, looking and observing my children that they always have to be the centre of attention. Even when you, the mother, are atlking or trying to get something done, they expect you to drop everything because they think they come first. Selfish, self-centred, I can also say that about my 18 yr old when he stayed here. He'd expect me to drop everything and drive him to the station or pick him up from there after work & so on!
Just a thought, but maybe your son is now seeing that he is not the centre of attention (the way he was in his eyes) and maybe he's sorry for everything. Maybe he wants it to be how it used to be but feels helpless to do anything or he's afraid.
I reckon if he could find someone he trusts and gets along with, he would open up to them and get help, the beginning of a new, fresh existance for him but the trouble is finding that someone.
I know myself, I find it very hard to talk to someone, meaning a therapist or counsellor if they seem too dominating, and to authoritive? I have to have someone that looks cool and talks on my level and after that I can feel an instant connection with them I hate to think how many I have had over the past five years, but finally, I've hit the jackpot!
I don't know if I'm making sense!
To have him living back in the house there are certainly things you must consider, but you could sit down with him, sort of like a "family conference" and discuss with him what you have in mind but until he puts something into practice then it will stay as it is. If he gets a job and sticks to it, sure, have him back and put the past behind, like a new beginning, that way he will fell more at ease. You never know, maybe he has had some bad experiences during this time that he would rather forget.
I think it's terrific your hubby has stood by you through all this. There aren't many men out there these days that would do that!!!! He must really love you and I think that's so wonderful!!!!!
Did I tell you about my appointment with the post trauma thing, well she is so lovely and I can really talk to her so that's something else that's a bonus for me. Got to go back next week again but I want to, I want to help myself!!
Anyway Kath, just got home from work and have to feed the hungry tribe!!!!!
Take things easy and a day at a time and I hope things will improve until the next time you write. Oh & thankz for your mail ad, maybe next time I will write on there, more personal that way!!! Hear from you soon!!!!Kerry B
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