Posted by Greg on July 28, 2000, at 9:03:53
In reply to Re: Posting @ Psychobabble seems slow… » Janice, posted by shellie on July 28, 2000, at 8:01:08
Shellie,
I won't speak for others here, but I read every post, new person or old (age not considered). I try to read carefully and base my decision to respond or not on what I feel the person's individual needs are. Sometimes I have knowledge on the subject and try my best to pass that on, sometimes I have no experience but can see that will help just to let the person know that I hear them and care about them, and I tell them that. Then there are times when you can sense that a person needs help and kind words won't be enough. If I feel that, I don't post. I recently responded to a new person's post with a post of "I really have no advice for you, but wanted you to know that you are in my prayers". I rec'd an e-mail from that person telling me that I had offended them with my comment, and if I had nothing constructive to say, please don't bother talking to them at all. The door swings both ways.
Of course there are going to be people here that others feel more comfortable talking to, that's life. But I've seen a new person receive 30+ responses to a new post, and others get none. It happens. Sometimes it takes time and persistence for a new person to find a place to fit in, it did for me. But PB is basically a loving, caring and supportive place with wonderful people. You and I are very lucky to have a place like this to come to. I've made a lot of friends here that I know will be with me for the rest of my life.
Quite frankly Shellie, I find your decision to label anyone here with a "Clique Mentality" offensive and unfair. You don't know what goes on in the minds of others (unless of course you are a Psychic) and shouldn't assume any of us to not care just because a person is new.
I'm not angry about this, but felt very inclined to respond. Once again, this is my opinion and I an not trying to speak for anyone else. I hope you have a peaceful weekend!
Hugs,
Greg> Sometimes I notice that new posters come on and nobody acknowledges them. For instance, the woman asking about teenage therapy was unanswered for several days. I think even if we don't have the information someone needs, after a day or so at least someone should answer, if only to direct them to try a search on the web. Old posters get way more responses than most new or even relatively new posters. I think this is a great board but sometimes it appears to me to have a bit of a clique mentality. Maybe that inevitable, but I think that is more disarming than having to register. Shellie
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