Posted by shar on August 1, 2000, at 14:21:42
In reply to Eleanor R., Harry B Shar(ed) comment... , posted by dj on July 31, 2000, at 22:14:31
> > .......isn't honouring yourself all about becoming comfortable with yourself, whatever state you are in?
dj:
The way you and I think of honor and comfort differ. I have had my Popeye revelation "I yam what I yam." I am basically at ease with where I am now in life. I recognize how I got here, improvements I've made, and that I still have "miles to go before I sleep" so to speak.
However, do I honor myself? Not usually, but more than I used to.
Honor to me means to regard with respect, treat with dignity and courtesy, have regard for and appreciation of worth.
There are many areas in which I must grow before I will live a life in which I honor myself. I must more fully believe I am a worthwhile individual, I must regard myself as deserving of self-respect, love, life-giving measures, owning my power and authority. I must put those ideas into action by living them.
I need to feed myself healthy food, create a sanctuary for myself, grow my own internal mother to whom I can turn for guidance and nurture, put myself in the midst of loving people, take myself away from toxic relationships, give and take, be honest with myself, and many other things.
I must also treat others honorably, notwithstanding the necessity of my standing up for myself when needed.
Balance and/or comfort may be necessary, but not sufficient, for all this to occur.
Shar
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