Posted by Kelley on September 26, 2000, at 14:00:31
I am 24 and was diagnosed with ADD approx. 3 months ago.
(I have also been taking 20mg of Prozac for about 2yrs)
My school work has never been a big problem, and am now
in graduate school. However, I can't make a relationship
work. My girlfriend broke up with me 4 days ago, much
to my dismay. She also has ADD and takes Wellbutrin along
with Dexidrine. At first everything was wonderful--before my
diagnosis. However, in the past few months we began to get in
little picky arguments, told little white lies to avoid
angering the other...almost became competitive of one another.
I noticed this trend and began to really show her how
much I loved her. Our other friends would talk about their
future plans, and it was obvious how in love they were.
However, my gf didn't seem to want to have terribly too
much to do with me in public. (I'm not talking about PDA--
just the normal way a coulple might act.) We are both
very ambitious people, and don't really enjoy being completely
dependent on someone. We stopped discussing our future together.
She is somewhat the type of person who enjoys being right
all of the time. But, she has also mentioned to me in the
past that she thought she might be bipolar. I love her very
much, and want to make things work. Her reasons for ending
the relationship are that she feels like she is being
really selfish, and that she needs to work through some
things before she could ever give back to a relationship.
She thinks we both need some time to grow as individuals, and
wants us to hang out as friends (not talking about our
relationship or the possibility of getting back together).
However, if I call her she seems almost annoyed. I read in
"Driven to Distraction" that relationship where both
partners have ADD, can be strained. Could this be a potential
light in us solving our problems? Or..am I grasping at straws here?
HELP!!!!!Kelley
poster:Kelley
thread:45323
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