Posted by bissie66 on February 8, 2001, at 15:08:28
In reply to How do you know when you're not sex. dyfunctional?, posted by PhoenixGirl on February 8, 2001, at 13:53:25
> Yes I know I complain about this all the time. *lol* This is a weird question and is really graphic, but I'm 23 and have been on some kind of AD since I was 13. For a long time I was on the heavily serotonergic ones, which completely killed my sex drive and physical sensation down there. Recently I went on desipramine, and things improved some. But I've never had an orgasm in my life, even when the libido problem did not seem too bad. I remember that I used to get horny and try to satisfy myself, but ended up frustrated. So I've had sexual problems for so long and for most of my post-pubescent life that I don't know what is healthy and what isn't.
> My depression has never been fully cured either, and I've never gone "all the way" or had a real relationship. But I've noticed big changes in my sexual functioning depending on what AD I was on. So I know the drugs are doing at least some of it.
> Currently, my libido isn't as strong as I remember it being years ago, at the beginning of my AD use (I was on imipramine, which is supposed to have worse sexual side effects than desipramine...I don't get it).
> Sorry for all this rambling, but I guess what I'm asking is, how do I know what my goal is or what is normal? I don't know how else to put it. Feedback would be appreciated.For me, I'm functional, when a) i get horny; and b) i can orgasm without too much work; either by myself or with a partner. i know other women who can't orgasm and they're not on ADs; I think for some women it's just really difficult. But for me, if I'm not having regular O's something's wrong and I'm pissed!!
I don't know if that answered your question; ask more if you want. I have noticed you posting about this a lot, and I feel bad for you. It's a pretty important part of life I think. But I've also finally realized that treating my depression has to come first; sexual function has to come 2nd to that. Thus, I am now sexually frustrated (on Celexa) and it sucks! But for the most part I am happy other than that area. This is a miracle -- I couldn't see the way out of the death tunnel a few months back. I could orgasm but I still wanted to die. So, until they come up with something that works on my depression and doesn't cause sexual dysfunction, I'll live like this.
Funny thing is, my BF just went on Celexa. I keep telling him, "if you can't come, you gotta switch meds!!" it's bad enough for one of us to have this problem but for some reason it would really upset me if we both did.
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