Posted by Else on July 21, 2001, at 6:43:40
In reply to Re: Psychiatry Without Exposure to Psychobabble?, posted by jojo on July 21, 2001, at 0:50:17
Look, I may have been exagerating a little. I tell him more than 5% but he's a psychopharmacologist and doesn't really care to know how I feel about my mother. The main problem I have is discussing the "sexual side effects" of some drugs he prescribes. I know that's childish but it really embarasses me so I try to come up with another explanation for why I don't like the Zoloft or the Neurontin.
But my post was tongue-in-cheek, I must specify. I just thought your doctor's comment was so naive I couldn't believe it. Of course patients don't tell their doctors everything. A lot of people (like me) are embarassed talking about sexual problems, especially to an attractive person of the opposite sex. What can I say. I think he's competent and I like him but yes, I do use him to get drugs, that's his job.
I used to have a therapist who did not prescribe drugs and was never able to really tell her everything I felt. She was nice but somewhat cold and made me uncomfortable. She never mentionned anything about herself and even weirder (this is hard to explain) but she used the polite "vous" form (in french)in adressing me rather than the less formal "tu". Here it's customary for people who are more or less the same age to use "tu" (you) when addressing each other. This just created even more distance between us. It's hard to explain to a speaker of english but, I don't know, hopefully you took french in high school.
I saw another doctor who, on the contrary had that sort of personnality that makes you want to recount your life story the first time you see them. She told me about her eating disorders while she was in med school (I didn't ask, believe me, her ADD, told me she thought she had a lot of hope for me. It wasn't like the whole conversation was centered around her but she shared some of her experiences and therapy felt like a real conversation. And I felt much more comfortable confiding in her. Unfortunnately, she moved to another city. But this was so much better then feeling like I'm revealling my inner-most secrets to some distant shrink who sits on a pedestal and never utters a word. How are you supposed to confide in someone who never even speaks to you ? That doesn't work for me. And my doctor doesn't cost anything, we have national health insurance. The blushing thing was a joke. I would most certainly be the one to blush and maybe I would pass out. I used to have this boring, grey, incompetent shrink I hated in the hospital and I just loved telling him these stories to try and embarass him but I'm not sure it worked. As for my present doctor, well, he seems like such a picture of mental health sometimes it gets on my nerves. Nothing would work. But he's more of a scientist than a therapist though. I'm looking for a psychologist at the moment. One I can afford.> > >One of them, a Psychoanalyst, actually laughed and said 'Did I think that her patients were not telling her everything'
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> > Did you laugh back. I tell my doctor maybe 5% of what I think. He's too good-looking to go into some of what I REALLY think. Besides, I don't want to make him blush.
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> > > Is it possible to effectively practice Psychiatry or Clinical Psychology without browsing through Psychobabble for at least half an hour. I have recommended it to at least three professionals, but I doubt that any of them "had the time", or the interest, to look at it. One of them, a Psychoanalyst, actually laughed and said 'Did I think that her patients were not telling her everything'. Of another Psychoanalyst, who had a similar attitude, I asked "How many patients have said to you "I just farted"? He said one or two. If, out of the hundreds of patients he has seen, only two "admitted" to having just passed wind, then it is obvious that they are not saying all the thoughts that are passing through their minds.
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> No. Actually, I was extremely disappointed and dumbfounded. This is the same MD, Psychiatrist, Certified Psychoanalyst (American Psychoanalytic Association) , who, when after 22 years of somewhat intimate knowledge of me, did not bother to answer my email informing her that I had found a new Psychiatrist. I had moved from Michigan to Oklahoma, and had developed severe insomnia, so I used that in telling her that I had found another Psychiatrist. I offered to send her a critique of my reaction to her therapy, if she requested it. I told her that it might not be her favorite reading. She never answered. She will never find out what happens to the patients that she is unable to help.
> After a few visits, my new therapist told me one or two sentences about herself-more than I knew after 22 years with the other one-so that I could understand my difficulty in getting in touch with her.
> She has chosen a difficult path in her personal life involving an adoption, and I see that she has a full plate. The next time that I saw her, I told her that I thought that she had just been venting some anger, due to her rushed life, but if she had told me those few things as a therapeutic maneuver, it was brilliant. In two sentences, it provided me an armature around which I could construct my image of her (Freud actually had his patients for Sunday lunches some times during the year. The NeoFreudians think it's best if you know as little as possible about them). In the critique that she never requested, I had told her that I recently heard a Psychoanalyst from Florida say, during an interview on NPR, that the most important part of Psychotherapy is the relationship between the patient and the Analyst (I think I would rather make that Patient. I think it's necessary for the Psychiatrist to learn from his Patients if he is going to get any better in his methods of treatment), and that, quite frankly, our relationship sucked-and not to take that as a Freudian interpretation of a successful "mother transference". I understand that as the DOCTOR, she had nothing to learn from her patients. She was the EXPERT, and insisted on being in charge.
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> Regarding you, why should you pay him to avoid his being embarrassed (your fantasy), or limit what you say because he's so good looking. Does he blush a little when you get near that outer 5%, and your afraid of loosing that? You may enjoy his embarrassment as you increase it to 40 or 50%. If he actually can't deal with it, maybe he should be paying you for his training. Unless, of course, you're using him as a source of drugs, which can be just as valid as psychotherapy if all one has is a vulnerable therapist.
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