Posted by Joe Schmoe on July 24, 2001, at 23:02:37
Leaving aside my own SP and dysthymia problems for a moment, I am curious about something on behalf of my girlfriend. She suffers from general anxiety. She tried taking Zoloft for six months, and predictably gained 30 pounds while having only mediocre anxiety relief. She recently weaned off Zoloft and is now trying Buspar. Having tried Buspar myself in the past, I'm not expecting much.
I would like to say the Zoloft killed her sexual desire, but frankly there wasn't much there in the first place so I don't know how much blame I can place on the Zoloft. Our relationship really suffers because of her lack of desire and absence of orgasms. I suspect part of her desire problem comes from being on the Pill, but what can you do. She has experimented with different hormone dosages in the past to no effect. Her lack of desire is a lifelong condition shared by her sister and most of her friends and she seems to think that most women don't enjoy sex very much and don't want it very often, and she is apathetic about improving her situation, which she views as a normal condition. What I get from our sex life is more along the lines of "service" than "passion." Of course any discussion of my dissatisfaction comes across as criticism or an ultimatum which is not exactly the fuel of romance. As the years go by and the situation does not improve, I am seriously tempted to leave. I feel like my sex life should be so much better.
Since I am seeing a specialist in psychotropic medications next week I figured I would ask her about my girlfriend's desire problem and what can be done about it. Wellbutrin sounds like one possible solution, although it sounds like it might make her anxiety worse.
I often see Selegiline discussed here as some sort of sexual super-pill. Take the following quote:
> At dosages of 2.5mg-10mg./day people will frequently experience increased motivation, mental vigilance, sexual vigor and (as Neal has noted) increased energy.
This sounds like a pretty awesome medication even if there is nothing wrong with you. I am wondering if it is ever prescribed to combat low female sexual desire, and if not, why not.
I would appreciate any feedback regarding medications to combat female desire/orgasm problems. Since she seems to think her condition is fairly common it would be hard to get her to any sort of sex counselor. In any case I think her problem is biochemical and I would prefer a medication cure rather than some embarassing set of counseling sessions which would put pressure on her to improve and make her even less likely to climax. At least if the medication doesn't work we can just blame the medication.
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