Posted by iamanonymous on August 7, 2001, at 11:53:50
In reply to ADD + perfectionism = Social Phobia??, posted by JohnM on May 4, 2001, at 22:09:03
> I think if I have any other problems besides attention it would be a perfectionistic attitude which makes me overly concerned with what others might think of me. The combination of the two could spell a recipe for "social phobia." I've reduced my perfectionism considerably with rational-emotive therapy.
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> The idea of having to speak to a large group makes me panicky, but that is a common fear with alot of people.
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> At present I take Nardil (30mg) which I probably would have to stop taking to start a stimulent, so its something to think about.
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> Thanks all, for the input!I agree with you. Let me show you a situation in everyday life:
friend: hello [me],how are you doing today?
{i'm thinking: why does he want to talk with me, he usually doesn't talk to me. hmm..}
me: good, how are you?
{I'm going to put a smile on my face otherwise he won't talk to me anymore}
friend: good, about the school assignment we made together,
{don't tell me, I screwed it up}
friend: you did a nice job
{I don't understand, I know sure that I did it wrong}
me: what did you say?
{oh no, now he thinks I don't have any self confidence}
friend: you did a fine job with that assignment.
me: oh.. I thought....
I remember from childhood, talking to people was very difficult, because by brain wasn't fast enough to cope with number of thoughts I needed to overcome.
friend: hello [me],how are you doing today?
me: ehhhh... what did you say?
me: how I am doing? fine
me: ehhhhh... never mind
friend: see you later...
me: ehh. ok ... good bye ehhhh.
friend: do you want to say something?
me: no
I think internal distractions are more difficult to cope then external ones, which I don't have.
I usually don't get distracted by a singing bird outside the class room. But I do things 'in slowmotion' because of internal distractions.It seems that over the years my brain became faster so that I can cope with those distractions. I still have them. I just turned 18 and never used any stimulants in my whole life.
I don't plan to use them because I don't think it could benefit me very much.
now, it seems that my speech has normal or even above average speed. I know this because I check it every time.
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