Posted by hudef on December 31, 2001, at 10:46:04
In reply to Re: Cause for depression, posted by cisco on December 29, 2001, at 17:20:03
Thanks Cisco,
for your good, sympathetic advice. But I err if I have given you the impression that I am obsessed with "satisfying my woman" merely by prolonged humping, at the exclusion of other, more delicate and sensual communication. And I err in that my aims are not purely so altruistic. I also want to enjoy the pleasure of sexual union that lasts as long as I would like it to last; not merely until my neurological system decides to have a spasm.Regarding the methodologies of ectasy which you so nicely deliniate-- I can only say that deficiency in the "humping" dept. has, if anything, caused me to engage a plethora of techniques by way of compensation, including those you speak of.
The essence of satisfying lovemaking may not be just humping till the cows come home. But by watching a lot of nature documentaries, I think I can safely say that prolonged vigorous shagging may have it's place.
> Relax. Women do not orgasm simply by the act of a penis inserted in a vagina.I have gotten that far, so I can affirm that this is true.
> Those who do are probably faking it!Gees, I wish they would fake it once in a while, instead of saying "is that it?".
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> Bring your lover to climax by stimulating her breasts, and manipulating her clitoris.Some have accused me of being manipulative.
Go slow! Revel in her body. Make love to her with your mouth and your hands. Don't worry about screwing her.
But it would make a nice change once in a while.
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> After she orgasms, it's your turn. Now the pressure is off!You seem to assume, as did my doctor, that the root of my problem(pardon the pun),is some kind of performance anxiety. Let me reassure you that I have long ago transcended any expectation for me "to perform"(as, unfortunately, has my girlfriend),so we are forced to make do with touchy feely type of stuff.
-One second, or one hour of humping, makes no diff.
I don't believe you.
She's happy. You are a stud!She's very considerate. I am a dud.
> Vibrators are the great equalizer. Get one for your woman, if she dosent already have one.She's tried 'em. She don't like 'em. It only goes to show, they're not all the same.
The easy way to simultaneous orgasms!!!
Now there's a concept which is an unnecessary imposition in the realm of spontaneity!
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> Remember, the point is to both have fun,sure, but fucking could be fun too, couldn't it?
>to both cum.
cumming is no problem for me.
>The end justifies the means.
If the end just didn't come so soon....
> You will be a great lover!I'd settle for slightly below average lover.
(don't take offence at my sarcastic demenor, Cisco, I know you are my well wisher, and your advice is sound.)Anyway, we seem to have gotten slightly off the designated subject matter for this branch. But hell, sex is much more interesting than treatments for clinical depression, eh?!
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