Posted by jda1292 on July 14, 2002, at 18:20:05
In reply to Stunned....., posted by janey girl on August 12, 1999, at 22:01:26
My mother left when I was 3. My father died six years ago. He left my sister tons of money and gave me crap. My aunt made sure that 13 family members got my inheritience. I was supposedly close with my father.
I was calm when they gave me a toolbox that was mine with all of the tools cleaned out. Talk about a cruel jewish bitch! My aunt is from what I have heard losing her mind! Meds won't help this monster!
I broke ties with all of the family about 6 years ago and I feel great. My cousin (jewish bithes mother) was getting a divorce and had the gall to call me for help. She is going out with a felon that is moving into her 400K home and has a gambling problem, for he blew an 80k accident settlement in a month gambling.
My advice make numerous attempts to be nice and see things other peoples way. Do not try an change people or the world whn dealing with family. If after a college try it does not work, screw them! Forgive them for being the bastards the are and move on. I have 2 kids a wife a good career 2 degrees and no time to screw with losers that are 'mean'. Some folks are just mean, when you think you found one, stay away!
Your not the problem, don't let them drag your life down. The only person's approval you need is your own! I am also lucky to have decent in-laws, but they give me occasional agita but I am sure that I do the same to them.
Stick in there! Congraduations on the new job!
Jonathan
> I lost my mother to cancer nearly 4 years ago. I'm the oldest
> child of 4 in my family.
>
> The last two years, and more immediately -- last six months --
> have been pure hell. I was downsized and unemployed since
> February. I landed a job not quite two weeks ago.
>
> In the meantime,I had to ask my dad for help to pay my rent,
> else I'd be evicted in 10 days.
>
> Well, today was my birthday, and my family made a point
> to ignore me. No card, no call, nothing. I'm lower than
> low. This is a family that "loves" out of duty, rather
> than from the heart.
>
> Any advice on help to finally cut ties from them? Any
> suggestions on how to make the pain less? My three best
> friends forgot or blew me off, too.
>
> It's just too damned hard doing it all alone.
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