Posted by Jefff on November 2, 2002, at 17:41:53
In reply to Re: May I ask why a 13 year old, posted by Clover on November 2, 2002, at 1:20:22
> johnj,
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> I don't mind your question. The reason the sexual side effects are very important is because not addressing them would basically guarantee that the medicine wouldn't work, because he won't take it. He's afraid he won't develop normally or be able to have children. He has enough to deal with already without having to worry about that.
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> CloverI just wanted to add that I say bravo to you Clover for being honest, open, aware and willing to properly educate yourself of your sons needs and medical issues:
This thread has totally reminded me of when I was 15 years old (Im now 33)... I was so extremely underweight/couldnt gain weight that I had to beg my parents to bring me to a Dr. to see if they could help somehow. Well my mother decided to bring me to a neurologist of all places. Yes I thought it was weird, but I really didnt know any better at that point. I imagine that it was easier for her to try or hope to blame my severe emotional/mental/social issues on a neurological problem rather than to accept the fact that I was a mental/emotional wreck primariliy due to my parents severely "dysfunctional" raising of me.
So I went, had all these neurological tests with the electrodes on the head and it turns out that I was/am completely neurologically normal. : )
BUT... here's what happened next: I go into the Dr's office after the tests and tell him the reason Im there is because I wanted to gain weight. He says he can give me some medication that will help do that, he sends me out and brings my mother in and they talk privately for awhile. Next thing I know he gives me a prescription for Mellaril (which I years later found out was an anti-psychotic drug). I was not then nor have I ever been psychotic. So I take this crap for a few months thinking that its just something thats gonna help me gain weight.
Well, I didnt gain a pound and what happened was I developed retrograde ejaculation (when I masturbated... no, I wasnt lucky or mentally stable enough to have sex with anyone at that point).
Anyway it scared the HELL out of me, I didnt know it was the Mellaril that was causing it, I thought I had a serious sexual or health problem and I was too embarrassed to say anything to anyone. It only cured itself after I stopped taking that crap on my own when I realized I wasnt gaining a pound from it and that it may indeed be the cause of the ejaculation problem.
I was tricked and lied to by my parents and some A -hole neurologist into taking a serious mental medication which I never needed and Im still furious about that.
Good for you for not putting your son through anything like that and for being honest with him.
Jeff
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