Posted by Gracie2 on February 28, 2003, at 11:55:42
In reply to Re: Take psych meds from a pyschiatrist ONLY » Gracie2, posted by MaryZee on February 27, 2003, at 23:12:21
Don't feel obligated to reply, I just wanted to let you know that if you have questions or problems, you can write me directly at gracie2114@aol.com. I'm just finally getting a clue myself, I'm finally starting to figure things out, and I can help you along, if you like.
Of course I'm not a doctor, but I've learned a lot from my experience. I'm still learning, I have a long way to go, but I'm on the path to recovery and I know it now. The "clue" I'm finally getting, what is finally starting to sink in, is that recovery is a spiritual experience.
But you can't do it alone, because you don't have enough information yet. Other people are out there who can help you, who can give you the information and support that you need to help yourself feel better. When you finally "give in", when you finally admit to yourself that you just can't handle this terrible unhappiness on your own, you can reach out to other people...and guess what? Those people will be there to help you, and you'll recieve information as you need it. There's no "quick fix" and there's no hiding.
Running away from your problems - whether physically or mentally (my personal favorite; trying to dull psychic pain with "recreational" drugs and alcohol) - never works, never. Of course, I've been hearing and reading about this kind of thing for most of my life, this spiritual journey, but I just didn't "get it". Now it's sinking in. Psychiatry and psychiatric drugs are tools we can use to improve our lives, to help ourselves heal.Right now, I'm further along on the path then you are. Although my medication issues are pretty much resolved for the time being - which means that these drugs are finally helping me - I'm now facing another painful issue. If I concentrate on my husband and his affair, it will kill me. It WILL kill me. If I allow myself to think about him and what he's doing, I'll be in pain until I die. So I'm learning to think about myself...what would help me to get over this. What I need to do now, for myself, to make me feel better, to feel safe. Not revenge. Revenge in any form is a "quick fix", trying to hurt someone else to make yourself feel better does not work. You have to concentrate on your own life, take care of yourself first, to quit doing things...anything...in an attempt to make another person act or react in a certain manner. It doesn't work, and that's not what life is about.
These are the lessons that I'm learning now. Instead of torturing myself by trying to figure out what my husband is up to, I'm trying to shift my focus back to myself. One way to do this is to reach out to others, to help them along, to try to give them the information they need. In doing so, I am distracted from my own pain. If I continue to think about myself and others in need, the actions of my husband will become less and less important to me. When his actions become unimportant to me, he cannot hurt me.That's where I am now. Write me if you need to, I am here.
-Gracie
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