Posted by Emme on October 30, 2003, at 14:06:35
In reply to Re: Depression/SAD caused by disfunctional parenting?? » bridge, posted by ace on October 29, 2003, at 16:58:02
> I think that's preety accurate. Somepeople are born tall, others short. Some are born with robust neurotransmition which can withstand trauma, others are born with weaker neurotransmition- just waiting for a trauma (all at oce or gradually) to put a spoke in the wheel of neurotransmition.That's how I've envisioned it. Allergies make a good analogy. If you're inherently allergic to, say, mold and aren't exposed to it, then you're okay. But if you're in a moldy basement your underlying vulnerability will surface.
> > Anyone here at this forum having happy, loving family growing up(again however you define it) yet suffering from the illness anyway??Well, happy in the sense that I knew both my parents loved me, got positive reinforcement for the things I did well. But with age and distance, by my own observations, and by talking it through in therapy I've come to realize that there were a lot of dysfunctional things going on. So I guess you could say I got a bit of a mixed bag.
> I think psychotherapy is nonsense. I think you have to stop asking outside sources for advice and find it in yourself- easier said than done sometimes. I just think therapy confirms the poor self-esteem of the patient. From the outset there is a power structure where therapist is superior- use friends as therapists or yourself.
I have to disagree with you. I've never felt a power structure. After all, we pay them. And I don't hesitate to say when I disagree with something that's suggested. My therapist has been helpful in a million ways. She forces me to stop beating up on myself, helps break through the isolation when I'm in terrible shape, she points out cognitive distortions when I just can't see them in myself (despite having seen Burns' book), has had some good suggestions on how to deal with certain situations and from those I get the hang of coming up with other ideas, and most important, she helps my pdoc and me in keeping tabs on how I'm doing. Her observations from seeing me more frequently helped the two of them realize I had a bipolar component to my illness. I know my therapist and pdoc have had a number of conversations to make sure they had a complete picture and could each figure out how best to help me. My friends provide great support, but it's a lot to ask of them to keep me afloat all the time. I try but I don't think I could do it *all* by myself - perceptions are so distorted in the depressed brain.
> That's just my opinion but- so call me a moron if you disagree!
Naw, I won't call you a moron. Nor would I call you the synonym of a donkey. :) You are, after all, the Nardil Champion! :) We've all had different experiences and have our own opinions.
Emme
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> Take care,
> Ace.
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