Posted by Bob on March 15, 2004, at 15:29:12
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Try to hang in there. There are certain things about these meds (besides the fact that they don't seem to work very well for many people) that there's just no getting around. Reduced or eradicated functioning/libido, and weight gain are two really big ones. I have fought the weight gain and what people say about it for years. Judgements of others' weights is deeply, deeply, deeply ingrained in our psyche. Among other things, it subconciously indicates gluttony, laziness, and lack of self control to others. Not true in most cases, but that's the message that's sent to our primitive brains. I have a number of friends of a certain race that I won't mention here that think nothing of talking about how fat you are whenever they see you after a long hiatus. One of them, the last time I visited said, "you getter fatter every time you come down here". Believe it or not, it does get a little easier to here that, but not much. Also, I'm a guy, so that helps a little to. However, I'm overly sensitive to that kinda stuff. Another thing I find interesting is that if you ever do lose the weight, you will hear all the people who managed to hold their tongue complimenting the heck out of you, as if to say they hated the old you, and the new you is much more acceptable. Of course, compliments are extremely helpful thought.
The only thing I can say is that you have to tough it out. There are truly no magical answers to these problems. If your husband understands, and he seems to, you have to try and work with that. Hang in there.
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