Posted by Wildman on July 21, 2004, at 13:29:48
In reply to new hubby's pill-popping, MJ, alcohol and Viagra, posted by retrojen on July 21, 2004, at 12:49:36
I've been (partially) in your husband's shoes and it was difficult to face the facts with my wife.
I, too, was doing Ativan (a stash that we took away from my mother-in-law when she was hospitalized) and MJ and also Percacets.
I thought I could hide it, but ultimately had to confess when my wife suspected things.
I didn't want to lose my wife and three kids and the life that we have created together so I came clean on everything. I understand the defensiveness that your husband feels, as he is probably very ashamed of himself, and to be caught in the lies is even worse to him. I knew that I would lose everything I've worked for over the last 20 years, so the choice between the lies and the truth was not that difficult for me to make.
Of course, my wife felt like I had been cheating on her (and in a way I did have a love affair with opioids).
I am also a mild BP2, and I believe I've also been through chem. dependency so I have a dual diagnosis. I've found tremendous relief in Lexapro and Seroquel. Now that I have given my meds a chance to work (no drinking and other stuff) I am feeling MUCH better and don't have the cravings for all those bad things nearly as much. I am also much easier to live with (according to my wife).
I understand your anger towards your husband, but I may humbly suggest that you two get to a pdoc (whoever diagnosed him as BP2) and discuss ALL the issues. If the pdoc is worth anything, you can get the help you need.
I hope that I have helped you by sharing my story here, and I hope that I have not offended you in any way. I do see hope for your husband and your marriage. Please hang in there. He needs you more than you can understand..
Wildman
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