Posted by headachequeen on October 28, 2004, at 21:28:09
In reply to Re: Today's date..., posted by bridgey1128 on October 28, 2004, at 20:20:19
> You know it really angers me when people are so cruel to someone that they know nothing about. That woman didn't know your circumstances and yet she assumed you were some moron who could not read for yourself. I had my 10 year reunion this past weekend and I saw a guy whom I had known since we were 11. He had a horrid stutter ever since I knew him. Since all of us pretty much all went to the same middle and high school, we all kinda grew up together. He is such a nice guy and no one ever made fun of him or made him feel less of a person because he stuttered. The teachers asked him to read, even though it felt like it took an eternity to get through sometimes, but I think in the long run this really helped his self esteem and by graduation he hardly had the stutter. I spoke to his wife and said, You know, I don't think I heard him stutter at all. With that, her eyes started welling up with tears and she recounted for me about their wedding day when he spoke their vows without a single "hang" on any word. She said she was so proud of him. I told her that none of us ever made fun of him and that he was such a sweet guy. I thought it was cruel for anyone to do that and he was just a normal guy and because we treated him as such it helped him to get over his stutter. He just felt more and more comfortable and not so stressed about it, and it just sort of dissapeared. Now, it hasn't gone completely away, but if you didn't know he had one, you couldn't hardly tell at all. It's amazing that when you treat people like people, the things that they can accomplish.
Bridgey, it is good to hear from you... we were worried about you...
and yes, it is important to treat people as we wish they would treat us...
had I not been feeling the effects of the stress that this strange sense of being creates I know that I would have let these women have it with both barrels as we used to say... and I have to admit that I am sorry now that I didn't...
how many others have they belittled, not knowing the actual circumstances?
I used to do a radio call-in show and I remember one day when a woman called in because the topic of the day mattered so much to her that she simply felt she had to call and state her feelings. She had a severe stutter, but she called anyway. It would have been so easy to complete her sentences or to finish the word that was giving her trouble, but some inner sixth or seventh sense told me not to do so, even though it seemed at the time that it would be a kindness. A few days later a woman I met in a restaurant told me that she was a friend of the caller, and how kind the caller thought I had been to let her have her say in her own words and to let her finish her thoughts...
I learned such a valuable lesson that day...
now I hope that someday someone is going to make mincemeat out of those two because they do not have an inner extra sense working for them...
I know, turn the other cheek... well I am out of patience and out of other cheeks...
and I wonder how many people are simply battered into submission by these people
kat
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