Posted by Shortelise on December 5, 2004, at 12:22:59
In reply to What works for ruminating thoughts?, posted by jerrympls on December 3, 2004, at 22:08:51
The thought that got me onto the track where I have found myself able to get out of that was asking this question when stuff happens:
Is this about YOU or is this about ME?
What it means to me is, when someone speaks to me or treats me in a way that I find inappropriate, I ask myself that question. And very, very often I find that people don't really see me, they are so wrapped up in their own caca that they are just being themselves, with their own problems and their own lousy ways of dealing with people.
It in fact has nothing whatsoever to do with me.
I am sorry you are dealing with this ugliness. Therapy helped me a lot.
Hugs
ShortE
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