Posted by Impermanence on February 19, 2005, at 20:15:29
In reply to Re: lexapro and marijuana use, posted by jcalder on February 18, 2005, at 18:18:37
Did he have alcohol on him during the times he punched holes in the wall? I ask because I've been there, I like many men have broke stuff up in a rage but only while drinking when someone really pushed buttons. If he was sober then he really does have anger problems and needs to talk to someone.
Still I'm not convinced he's bipolar, I must warn you people here are obsessed with bipolar (manic depression) because most of them are bipolar. Only a tiny percentage of people actually have this illness and I think it's unlikely he has it. I think it's more likely he's not dealing with issues from his past or to do with you.
I'm an alcoholic (off the drink), I had four serious suicide attempts over the last four years and all where during a week or two long binge. Any time I broke stuff was when I was drunk. My psychologist put me on Zyprexa for six weeks thinking I was bipolar after a suicide attempt, like everyone else here thinks your husband should do. Those six weeks I was a zombie lying in bed wishing I was dead. Yes antipsychotics should shut your husband up like they did me, that is if your husband is really bipolar because guess what, my psychologist was wrong, I'm not bipolar, I was just an alcoholic that needed to talk to someone and get off the booze. I really don't understand the obsession with bipolar and ADHD these days. If someone gets angry there bipolar and need expensive antipsychotics to drain their soul away. If a child has a zest for life and can't shut up it has ADHD and needs to be put on speed!!!! Maybe it's the greedy pharmaceutical companies and their propaganda?
Anyway, the only people who can tell you if your husband is bipolar is a psychologist who has spent time with him. I still think he vas very unhappy with you and now has the confidence to move on. I'm on the same meds as him, I smoke weed every day and have punched walls, I'm not bipolar. I think the best thing you and him could do is go to marriage counseling together and get to the root of why this all happened, was he really happy, did you change ect.
On the cannabis thing, yes weed will drain ambition and motivation out of a person, it will make them not care so much for whats going on around them and make them just want to live in there own little world (while their stoned). But in my opinion as a stoner, weed would be more likely to make him not bother leaving than go to all this trouble UNLESS he really was unhappy and maybe the fights where just too much.
Good luck again Jcalder, I hope you find happiness. You both need to talk to professionals, maybe together. You can't change him, you can only change yourself. Give it a few weeks, if he hasent changed his mind I suggest you get on with your life. XXX
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