Posted by Declan on July 31, 2005, at 3:04:12
In reply to Marplan - so far so bad., posted by tecknohed on July 30, 2005, at 20:49:19
I haven't tried Marplan and can't help you with that. I wanted to ask you what you mean by social phobia.
Let me try to explain to myself and others what I mean by social phobia.
After a while with people, if I haven't felt like avoiding them already, I will start feeling swimmy. It's like I start to merge with them, I can feel myself go into them and them into me, so to speak. Engulfment. (Naturally from a psych point of view this is something I need and want?). It doesn't feel nice and is disabling. A drink at this point is good because it gives me an *edge*, as well as some calm. (I grew up in a situation where everything had to be interpreted and it's a strain to be doing it all the time.) By the end of a few hours of this I'm a wreck. All I want to do is whatever is the right thing to do. I start making social mistakes. The end point is being completely immobilised, unable to leave the situation. It's got nothing to do with other people being horrible. (I get on best with direct people who are accepting but not neccessarily similar to me.)
Anyway, what would you call this? Executive dysfunction and social liability are two Utopizen mentioned.
What do we mean when we talk about social phobia? Are we all meaning the same thing? Fear would be a common factor, but of what?
Hope you get my drift.
Declan
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