Posted by Racer on January 4, 2006, at 14:07:36
In reply to hi again!, posted by med_empowered on January 4, 2006, at 12:39:06
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> I think there's the assumption that you have to fix yourself **before** anything good can happen--good relationship, before you can become a good parent, etc. I don't think thats true. We are all imperfect, struggling, somewhat damaged people.Everyone. So...maybe you don't have to be perfectly happy or well-adjusted to have a kid. Or start a relationship. I'm not saying these things will help you, necessarily, but sometimes continuing on with life is healing in and of itself...plus, don't forget "the healing tincture of time". Love heals, relationships heal, life itself helps us heal/adjust.I agree. I am older than you are -- obviously -- so I can give that sage advice... lol But after watching the world, I've finally figured out that if you wait until everything is ideal to do something, you'll wait forever.
When I met my husband, I had just come out of a long relationship, and told myself I was going to practice dating -- and not get involved with anyone. I was going to get my life in better order, practice the dating thing, and then wait until things got better to look for a relationship. And then I met a man who seemed to share my thoughts, and who gave me a nickname my mother had used as a kid (that seemed like a Magic Sign), and just felt Right. So, best laid plans...
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> I think mental hospitals really aren't that great. And if you're going off psych meds anyway, I think it might be counter-productive. Intensive outpatient therapy might help. So might the passage of time.I can't really get more intensive outpatient -- either I'd have to do a partial hospital which would mean leaving my T and my pdoc, or do more therapy with my T, which we can't afford. I already do once or twice a week with her, a weekly support group, and an every other week group therapy with my T. That's stretching out money a lot as it is.
Thank you, though, especially for not trying to discourage me in trying to get pregnant. The more I hear that, the more I start to feel that I shouldn't be doing this -- and that leads to very serious suicidal ideation.
And for everyone here -- today I suddenly feel different. I'd bet that means I'm going to get my period, which would mean that most of this has been hormonal. Grrr. Or, of course, I'm pregnant, and this is just a change as my hormones change from that. Guess I'll know in a few days.
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