Posted by Jost on May 16, 2006, at 20:43:14
In reply to Re: What to do about Dad » stickywicket, posted by Larry Hoover on May 16, 2006, at 16:48:56
I wouldn't even use the word "dependent," because it also has many negative connotations, ie everyone thinks it very important to maintain independence, etc.
It doesn't really fit the meaning, either, for me. To me, using a drug that you need, in order to improve your health (mental or physical), if it's being used carefully and responsibly, and with a doctor's sponsorship, doesn't create "dependence."
It's true that there are "withdrawal" syndromes, with ADs, which implies an analogy. But there are important differences, and if it harms the process of getting help, why push the analogy any further than it goes. There are significant distinctions.
It may be the ADs could help your father to feel better, and to live a more productive, or fulfilling life. Period.
If someone I loved were having a hard time, I might at any point step in somewhat paternalistically (or maternalistcally) to take up the space left by their having to cope with the pressures or pain of the situation.
I'm so sorry to hear that your father's having such a hard time, and hope you find something that helps.
Jost
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