Posted by laima on February 20, 2007, at 10:16:05
In reply to Re: Doctors who care, posted by elanor roosevelt on February 19, 2007, at 23:02:14
That's a shame if he aims his frustration your way. I would guess that that's just his frustration, with an inappropriate target. That's a common phenomena- how many of us encounter a friend after a frustrating event, and snip at an innocent comment that they make? The doctors are human after all, but I'm still very sorry to hear of this in a professional setting. It's definately not helpful.I'm sure doctors are happy when treatment is working, and frustrated when it's not. One, they want to help, two, they might not know why their recommendation didn't work-and feel frustrated with themselves over it. They might have been going on a hunch which seemed like a sure thing. There may be times they end up stumped over what to do next, and feel frustrated over that. They might wonder if patient is compliant-however misguided in one's case that might be- and there supposedly are tons on non-compliant patients seeing all kinds of doctors, so such a questioning doesn't come out of nowhere. A good doctor obviously has investment and interest to be effective, obviously cares about what he or she is doing. Hopefully most good doctors also have compassion, but even with the few who might be cooly detached- they still would want to feel competent and helpful. They want to be successful in treating patients, successful in their career. It seems that the best professionals in any field are enthusiastically fully engaged with their field.
Well, in any case, no matter where your doctor directs his frustration, my speculation is that it may actually stem from his own sense of failure at not having provided successful treatment. The meds might have failed you, but they obviously helped someone else, so that may be why doctor's frustration doesn't automatically target the meds.
Hang in there-
> my pdoc is very happy for me when the meds are working
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> when i report that the meds are not working his frustration is sometimes aimed at me and not the failure of the meds
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> isn't that transference or something
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