Posted by yxibow on October 18, 2008, at 19:35:43
In reply to Re: Music and depression, posted by Trotter on October 18, 2008, at 14:15:32
> >I see it because I'm caught up at the moment with a disorder that I recognize I'm growing older and I see others I know who I used to remember hanging out when I was 15 years younger going about their lives. But growing older is just a part of life, I just want to be joining it not seeing it go by.
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> I can relate to this. I remember before depression that I was hardly even aware of growing older. It didn't bother me. I was just getting on with life. Now it bothers me a lot. As you said, its watching life go by without living it. To me I am wasting too many years in depression that I will never get back. I think people like to look back on their lives as well lived, not with regret.
Yes, there is a subconscious look back at parts of your life as the best times -- and don't get me wrong, they may well have been, but sometimes people (including myself) look at certain periods through rosy lenses or forget certain aspects that may not have been the best. That doesn't mean you didn't make it through them though, too, and maybe succeeded despite them.
I guess my point is that one can't live in the past nor the future and end up missing the present, the Here and Now, where we all live, because that is how life goes.That doesn't mean as I said you have to beat up yourself over depression that as a biological and psychological condition you may or may not have had as much control over as you wish -- it means pushing yourself a bit, building your self esteem and going forward, in the present.
-- best wishes
Jay
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