Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on November 20, 2008, at 3:20:12
In reply to Re: sexual disorders and medication » rayww, posted by Phillipa on November 20, 2008, at 0:28:59
> I feel you are attacking me
Please follow the site guidelines by using the Notification button at the bottom of the posting window if you have a problem with the wording of anyone's post, rather than stating that on the board.
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