Posted by Zana on April 5, 2009, at 12:16:57
In reply to Re: finding a pdoc - any experiences appreciated » desolationrower, posted by garnet71 on April 5, 2009, at 9:40:56
Boy is this a hot topic for me.
I am in the middle of looking for a new Pdoc. I worked with the same woman for 15 years. Two weeks ago she announced that she had taken on new administrative responsibililties (she's hospital based) and would no longer be able to see me. I was floored and too proud and wounded to ask her for referrals. I am still in the process of finding a replacement.
I had a consult with one pdoc who I was referred to and didn't really like and who didn't offer to see me more than once. He did give me several names but I figured if I didn't really like him, I probably wouldn't like his referrals.
My therapist gave me the name of the person he uses, someone I had used for a consult a year and a half ago. I liked him but he is very busy and unavailable until May and has not gotten back to me to set up an appointment. So I am not sure whether or not he will be able to see me.
He gave me some names. I have seen one of his referrals (all of this is expensive and only partially covered by insurance) and the woman seemed smart but all over the place - very unsettling to be with. I came home and collapsed into tears. I have a 2nd appointment with her Tuesday and have still not decided whether or not to keep it. I don't think she is a good choice but right now she is my only choice.
One thing I have learned the hard way: if I tell people right off that I was dropped by my previous doc, they assume I am a "difficult" patient and refer me on. Boy does that feel rotten!
I think sending out letters sounds like a brilliant idea but I don't think I would have the energy to do it. So I have been calling people I know, my therapist, a friend's therapist, the friend of a friend and asking who they refer to or go to.
So far it doesn't seem to be working very well.
I don't think this is much help to you but I couldn't help but tell my story. It is a very frightening, helpless feeling place to be.
Zana
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