Posted by floatingbridge on April 20, 2011, at 0:21:49
In reply to Re: the only way out » floatingbridge, posted by sigismund on April 19, 2011, at 14:07:57
> >'m still trying to figure this one out. :-/
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> You are the picture of reasonableness.Ask my husband :-) The internet can do wonders for one's personality. (Thanks, though sigi.)
>So you are not well? I don't think children are damaged so much by their parents depression as by confusion and denial around it.
I guess that is probably more accurate. Sigh. It's that depression, well, mine, just takes away so much focus. I can be very self-absorbed. Getting better. Still. Not what I had in mind.
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> I remember once my son told me that in year 12 he had, at one of those interactive things they have, told the class I guess, certainly the facilitator/teacher that I was depressed. And he
told me he said that. He is in good shape. I think most of the problems arise when there is lots of mystification and confusion.This made me laugh. It really is funny; not in an lol way. But funny beautiful or funny poignant. Are you better now than you were? You strike me as someone with a certain amount of self-acceptance.
My son certainly understands that my
pain level affects my mood and ability to participate or tolerate things like jumping on my back. He calls it my arthritis (even though it's only a little OA). I wonder how I would explain depression in an o.k. way. He's just past seven.He seems like he understands alot--verbal and precocious that way, but his world is still very magical. It's like intermittent rationality.
I suppose the most we've ever touched upon it was when my father died, and
sometimes I would be hit by a wave of saddness. Like clouds over the sun, I would say. I was missing my dad. It's o.k. to be sad.Now I'm making the effort to work on anger. I find that as difficult as
saddness. And my son has a temper. I suppose everyone does, but my son is not mild. The best approach is to
understand and manage my own--or else I'll won't be much help to him with
his.He understands in his way his grandfather's Parkinson's--papa's illness, he calls it. And doesn't take his grandfather bouts of discomfort and intolerance (sensitivity to stimulation--
anvawful disease) personally. It's very moving, actually.But a parent with a MI? I just don't know. For me, that is. Still guilty. Scared. When did you start talking to your son? (About depression.) How did you make it be o.k. for your family?
*a rose by any name
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