Posted by g_g_g_unit on May 28, 2011, at 6:50:42
In reply to Re: Narcissism no longer in DSM » g_g_g_unit, posted by floatingbridge on May 27, 2011, at 11:27:52
Oh, no I wasn't offended by your comment at all! It just would be all too easy (and far more reassuring) to presume that narcissism had no basis in reality, whereas I've tended to find that the opposite is often true .. at least when dealing with others who I suspect to have narcissistic traits.
Yes, I agree that the desire to feel special is a common human drive. The pathology probably occurs when that desire comes at the expense of the consideration of others' well-being -- which is something I'm sadly guilty of.
That said, I think that, on the whole, I'm probably too hard on myself. I suspect that the frustration, jealousy, resentment, etc. I feel are a natural consequence of chronic illness - rather than some kind of personality flaw.
> ggg, I hope You didn't find my reference to narcissists as 'self-centered bores' offensive. I meant it ironically. I became uncomfortable with a sense that the thread was becoming a too easily made joke.
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> Your post explains a great deal about the discomfort of either 'being' a narcissist or having narcissistic tendencies. I prefer the latter, feeling that narcissism is inherently a human trait if the seed truths of enduring myths are considered. Themes of narcissism are multicultural. To be seen and acknowledged and cherished as worthwhile and special are strong drives imho. Anything that interferes with that healthy expression and reception would most likely be painful and seek address through other outlets, perhaps maladaptive ones.
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> Thanks for speaking up. I find your post helpful.
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