Posted by Solstice on June 1, 2011, at 12:42:49
In reply to Re: Guilt, wrt: repeated treatment failures » zonked, posted by floatingbridge on June 1, 2011, at 3:35:13
fb - maybe when you see him next, just tell him plainly that you feel guilty about the treatment failures, and are worried that he is frustrated with you. Most probably, he is frustrated that he hasn't found the answer - and it's NOT directed at you. He likely doesn't even realize that his frustration (with his own limitations) is being felt by you... and it hasn't even occurred to him that his not putting words to it is leaving you to your own devices to interpret what his frustration means. If you tell him very plainly and simply how you're interpreting what you sense in him, you'll be able to walk out of there feeling much better! Let us know how it goes when you see him next!Solstice
> Zonked, I always feel guilty. I actually have apologized when treatments fail. My pdoc has tried to help me with this, but right now, I think he is frustrated beyond his usual range. I guess I am very difficult. I tried to tell him in advance, but he insisted on learning through experience.
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> I'm hoping his frustration (if that's what it is) can clear up soon. He's either trying to get something through my tough skull or it's possible he's just had it. I mean, I think he thought I'd have 100% remission at one point. It's tough not to feel disappointed w/a goal like that :-/
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