Posted by SLS on February 13, 2012, at 8:22:48
In reply to depressive emotions, posted by g_g_g_unit on February 13, 2012, at 6:21:10
> How do you not hate others for being alive (figuratively speaking), active, well?
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> How do you not hate yourself for failing to live up to your standards? How do you not blame yourself for everything that's been lost? How do you learn to forgive yourself?
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> How do you maintain your dignity without falling into either isolation and bitterness or dependency on others?
You asked all of the right questions with precision.Have you thought to engage in psychotherapy and ask the therapist those exact same questions?
CBT is a valuable tool. However, you first have to be convinced that your thoughts are distorted and influenced by the biological depressive state. However, some of the issues you have are probably best treated using some kind of interpersonal therapy. Many of your negative thoughts are actually based in reality. It is quite human to think and feel the way you do regarding the effects that depression has had on your life. It is not fair, and you really do deserve to be without this hideous disease.
These are normal human reactions to your very real plight in life:
- hate others for being alive
- hate yourself for failing
- live up to your standards
- blame yourself for everything that's been lost
- isolation
- bitterness
- dependency on othersIt will be good to talk things out. I think you can make progress with these issues.
I can't really describe in depth how I deal with these issues for myself. I would have to really think, and it would take too long. It becomes second nature as a habit - CBT. I have been, for the most part, successful. However, depression is an insidious and unyielding beast that must be battled every moment. Quite often, the beast beats me. Sometimes, not. I very rarely feel like actually win, though.
- Scott
Some see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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