Posted by Phil on June 5, 2012, at 6:35:52
In reply to Re: Acceptance Of What Can't Be Changed, posted by g_g_g_unit on June 5, 2012, at 1:16:32
> The great contemporary author David Foster Wallace -- who battled with Bipolar depression, and sadly took his own life 4 years ago -- wrote something along the lines of acceptance being akin to defeat.
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> Whenever I hear someone advocating acceptance, I tend to find myself agreeing.*I think it's true in some areas and false in others. If someone can't accept that they are an addict, they won't change. Why would they want to?
If I refuse to accept that I have bipolar disorder, I won't seek help, at my own peril. If someone can't accept that their child died, they will never change their room or will set a place at the dining table every meal. You can't move forward if you deny reality and refuse to accept it.
OTOH, if an athlete is always second to a competitor who everyone calls the best ever, but he refuses to accept that, he will keep training and someday prove them wrong.
So I think that acceptance is necessary in many areas of life but refusing to accept is necessary in others.
Life is good.
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