Posted by linkadge on July 10, 2012, at 13:41:14
In reply to Re: Spanking Slapping Kids Linked To Mental Disorders, posted by emily elizabeth on July 10, 2012, at 10:45:25
I agree with the above point.
I would assume that there are higher rates of parental mental illness among the pool of those that hit their children.
Parents with depression, bipolar, ADHD etc. are probably more likely to hit their children *due to poor impulse control*. I would argue that they are more passing on their genetics, than harming the child by a justified smack or two.
By the way, I have *zero problem* with hitting your children (non injurous obviously) when they diserve it. I don't think its hitting the child that causes the problem - its when parents hit their children without justification. (Again...something that the study did not disect)
I remember being smacked as a kid. Ususally my first thought was - wow, I really diserved that.
Working in the public education system, I deal with the consequences of **grosly inneffective** disciplinary standards, on a daily basis. Take a stroll through your local school! The number of *out of control* classrooms are on the rise. Its usually due to parents that coerce their children with toys, candies and trinkets. Parents feel that they are 'harming' their child by denying them anything, or allowing anything bad to happen to them. Children come to school wondering 'why should I behave?'. 'I can't fail or get kicked out if I don't - so...what are you going to give me to behave'.
My neighbour teaches in China. He tells me that there are few behavior problems. If there is a problem, he just has to make a phone call home. We have a generation of youth...who all feel entitled to be actors....who are great at neotiating their 'rights' and who only do things that make them feel good. You think the admonishment of a good slap is actually working......heh!
Today's children:
"The other day, I touched a hot burner and got singed. Not permanently burned, but it hurt a little. I don't think thats fair - and I feel I will be perminantly dammaged psychologically from the incident. Tomorrow, I'm going to grab the hot burner again and try reasoning with it."
Linkadge
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