Posted by alexandra_k on October 14, 2013, at 0:48:41
In reply to Re: hypersensitive to noise » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on October 13, 2013, at 8:20:04
AAP's?
You might be right about the coffee. Coffee helps me focus - so sometimes it helps me to the point of total absorption / getting lose in the zone. Where all the sounds receed... But coffee also can result in this generalized anxious fidgetyness...
I drink a lot of Rooibus tea these days... Decaf coffee, too. Coffee... Is more a tool for gym / study.
I don't think it is necessarily a disorder... But... Does seem to be part of a more general pattern. P-doc suggested Autistic Spectrum. It actually... Fits. It isn't something I had ever considered before. Thought my 'emotionality' (borderline) precluded it. But I always was more of a loner than the typical borderline thing... And seems... My emotional outbursts are triggered from sensory issues. Or upset of things being done differently from the way they *should* be done. You know... If people put more thought into things...
'Friendliness' and 'Sociability' are cultural values over here. Everyone will describe themselves as these things. Even I... Have to. I say 'quiet'. And 'independent'. And people hear / think 'cool'. So they are all 'oh yeah, I totally am out doing heaps of stuff all the time. Certainly don't expect / need / want to hang out with you'. But they don't hear that it is more that I'm a-social than that I'm being picky about who I'm social with. I can't really say that I'm a-social without people interpreting that as anti-social.
Who wants to live with someone who is anti-social?
I need to live by myself, really. The issue is... That when I do live with people... I want to not see them or hear them. Becuase I want to live by myself, you see. That is the problem. When I've got my own space at home... So I can make coffee and take a dump without other people being all up in my business... Then I can be friendly. Within a structured environment for a limited amount of time. And I enjoy that soical contact, yeah.
I thought your son must be getting close to college... I remember shared rooms are common in the US... Not entirely sure why since people are all about multiple bathroom houses usually... But, yeah. I don't know how people do that. I hope they try and match the only children.
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