Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 19:55:17
In reply to I wonder if I'll ever have kids..., posted by alexandra_k on April 23, 2005, at 20:11:03
For an opposing viewpoint...
:)
I love my son dearly and wouldn't trade him for the world.
But if I had trouble concieving, I wouldn't have gone to extraordinary lengths or adopted.
I love my son and delight in him.
But I would have been just as happy and fulfilled childless. I wouldn't have been lonely or sad. I had a million things to do with my time. My husband and I enjoyed each other, perhaps more than we do with a child and slightly opposing parenting styles.
So as a happy mom with an absolutley delightful and nearly trouble free son, I can also say that being childless would have led to just as fulfilling a life for me.
I'm not sure that external circumstances like children or marriage can lead to internal fulfillment.
Which is not to say that I could lose him now that I have him. I know him as a human being now and I couldn't bear losing that relationship. Not merely because he's my son, but because he's a special wonderful human being. (I don't want the fates to misinterpret what I said. I wouldn't want to live without my son now that I know him.)
poster:Dinah
thread:488495
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