Posted by Pfinstegg on May 2, 2005, at 23:18:15
In reply to Re: Time for the big talk I think » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on May 2, 2005, at 15:08:28
If you son's T is opening up this area with him, it might be good to work in synch with her- have a session (with her) to talk about the best way to appoach it with him. We began with the wonderful NOVA video which someone already mentioned. Then, at ten or eleven, I got several books- very simple ones recommended by our independent bookstore. We never had a specific talk, because we thought it would be uncomfortable for everyone, but later, when he began dating (about 15), we had occasional brief exchanges- me saying things like that, while it was his choice, I hoped he would have gradually more intimate relationships, but would not rush into having intercourse until he felt mature and had found a girl he cared about emotionally as well as sexually. That happened when he was 19. It was all good after that- two serious relationships lasting several years each, then the present lovely girl whom he's going to marry this October. I was stunned when he suddenly said to me, this year, while I was talking about something entirely different, "Mom, **** and I have such a great sex life!" The truth is,we said very little along the way- we mostly tried to convey that it was a beautiful part of life, and that we supported him as he made his own discoveries and choices. The books were wonderful; I can't remember the titles now, but they covered everything in such a comfortable, thorough way.
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