Posted by Daisym on May 22, 2005, at 16:22:36
In reply to Saw my son amongst a group of boys, posted by Dinah on May 22, 2005, at 8:34:06
I think I know what you mean. We refer to my youngest as an "old soul" -- he feels things deeply and wonders about those who are cruel. We think he is going to get eaten alive in real world of high school. he tells me already he'd like to be a therapist or school counselor because "nobody knows how hard it is really."
He has tons of friends, all very different. But he is generally the peace maker and rarely will he battle for "his way" --except with his brothers, of course. But he is definately one of the pack, not a leader and not an adult. But not afraid to step away either.
My middle kid has a huge need for the rules to be applied fairly. He has what we fondly refer to as a "heightened sense of right and wrong" and he will loudly voice his displeasure at any percieved imbalance in the world. He isn't afraid to break rules, he just thinks that "everyone" should be either punished or not. Meaning if anyone got away with anything, he should too. (grin - nope!) He is much harder to parent and he had limited friendships in middle school because he is so intense.
Isn't it hard to stand back and notice what your child is or isn't doing? Especially socially. Kids can be so mean to each other, I'm glad the other boys didn't tease him about his perceived authority. He'll make a great judge someday. :)
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