Posted by crazy teresa on October 22, 2005, at 9:04:40
In reply to Crazy Teresa...you rock!, posted by med_empowered on October 22, 2005, at 3:08:32
I'm so excited for you! It makes me want to go gather up a bunch of stuff for you to use once you've moved out, put casseroles in your freezer, and mail you pizza coupons! ;~}
Actually, I can't take any credit for anything I told you. I learned it from "Changes That Heal", it absolutely changed my life. I no longer choose to be a victim. Boundries are fabulous-- who knew?!
Of course I still have to deal with crap like my mother and her negativity, but it's not my job to make her happy (she never will be unless she decides she can be; NOTHING I do will anyway), nor is it my job to change her (only she can decide to work on her attitude, get medication, etc.), or try to make her life any different (it's her life to live as she chooses).
As painful as it is to limit my (and my family's) exposure to my mom, it had to be done for my own mental health. I only see her a few times a year; not all visits are good. But it is much easier to deal with her a few times a year and from 3 hours away, physically.
The postings of yours that I've read sound very intelligent! I'm sure you'll do very well in school. Would you care to share what you're planning to study? I'd love to hear all about it!
crazy t
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