Posted by Racer on October 7, 2006, at 19:16:51
In reply to My self esteem, posted by Adrift on October 7, 2006, at 13:48:28
Talk myself out of them? No. Distract myself with something I get satisfaction from, which then soothes my distress? Yes.
For me, that distraction takes many forms, most of which involve fibers. Knitting is one, I do that well enough. Spinning, which is still new enough that I'm amazed by the magic as individual fibers -- often in yummy colors -- become yarn, is another. (I don't do that nearly as well, though, so that can go either way -- "hey! I made that!" or "I can't even do this right...") Sewing -- there's a satisfaction that comes from seeing those seams, it's calming and soothing for me, when I see a well-pressed seam and know I made it. Sometimes other things, cleaning, working out, etc.
When all else fails, I can crawl inside a book, which sometimes helps but usually provides at least an escape pod from being me.
In terms of my self-esteem, per se, that's harder. Sometimes if I succeed in creating a clean space from clutter and mess, I feel like a better person for it. That's rare though -- don't get me started, my self esteem is shaky at best right now. Showering helps, at times, though...
Good luck, I hope you find it soon.
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