Posted by karen_kay on December 14, 2006, at 6:47:34
In reply to WANTED: Self Esteem, posted by Maxime on December 13, 2006, at 22:15:22
i was raised being told on a fairly regular basis things like 'you're too fat for a two-piece swimsuit (at about age 6)', 'you're not pretty and you're not special (not sure that one came word for word, but that's the basic idea of what i 'heard' when she spoke to me). in high school, i hated myself. even longer after that. but, it jsut started a little bit at a time. i've alwyas known my eyes are pretty, so i'd tell myself 'if everything else in the world goes to sh*t, your eyes will still be brown and beautiful' i think my self esteem was built, by me (wouldn't credit anyone else for helping too much, as i wasn't around anyone in particular for a long amount of time) aafter high school, during college. and i must say, i do hold myself in very high esteem, so it must work (some may say i'm narcisistic, but i wouldn't go that far.) but, i do enjoy my reflection in the mirror, makeup or none. and i'm very happy about that, considering 5 - 10 years ago i hated the way i looked so much, i didn't even think i looked human at the time. now, every time i see a mirror, i check myself out.)
funny how parents can screw you up, isn't it?
so, start with something about yourself you really like and add to the list, until you love every dimple, curve, and inch of skin on your body.
poster:karen_kay
thread:713429
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