Posted by Meri-Tuuli on January 11, 2007, at 13:09:03
"First steps to boosting low self-confidence
Low self-esteem is based on judging yourself in a pessimistic way. Thus negative beliefs about yourself emerge, which can have an impact in many aspects of your life. It is important to note that these negative beliefs are not facts but rather opinions that are based on your life experiences
Learn to notice your self-critical thinking, for example 'I am a failure', and deal with it immediately by substituting them with realistic ones, such as 'I may have failed in some situations, but that does not mean I can't succeed in others.'
Avoid trying to be like someone else, as this feeds your lack of self-worth and confidence. Remember you are unique and no matter what you try to do you cannot be someone else. Aim to strive to better yourself, but don't criticise yourself for not being as beautiful, as slim, as successful or as popular as someone else. It is your uniqueness that gives freshness and vitality to any relationship that you have. It is the authentic you that people will love."
poster:Meri-Tuuli
thread:721357
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