Posted by happyflower on November 18, 2007, at 10:48:59
Drink , do drugs, smoke and swear in front of my kids, I am a good role model for them to follow when they are older. Instead I teach them values that will make them wonderful adults. They can go out to eat in a restaruant and know how to behave. They are loved everyday and told so everyday with a hug and kiss goodnight, no matter if they are 11 and 12. It is hard work to raise kids, but if you want your job to be easier in the end, you better start off doing a good job in the beginning when they are forming their ideas. I have great kids but I truely believe it was due to the hard work of parenting that my DH and I did. I don't want my kids to be trailer trash.
I take my future career seriously. I am not pretending to be a T without the intensive training it takes to really know what you are doing. I am taking as many classes to be well prepared to do the job. I am taking care of my own issues so I can handle the job. For being a T takes a lot of personal strengh, and you can't do the job if you are messed up emotionally on the edge of taking your own life. I talked about this with my T ,and he agrees completely, in fact if he was ever doing that bad, he would take a leave of absense. He has had over 40 years experience and he sees the harm it can do to clients when the T isn't performing their job the way they have been trained to do.
My friend who is a T, she took care to make herself as stong and deal with her past, so she will be an effective T. As a parent, knowing there are T's out there doing counceling jobs without the training scares the beezeebers out of me. I wouldn't want someone messing up my kids because they don't know what they are doing.
Knowing how painful termination is, it would even be more painful if you lost your T to them taking their own life.
T's need to be stable to deal with those who are not so stable, otherwise it is the blind leading the blind. I have come a long way in therapy, and have have had a lot of life experiences, over 15 years being a mom, stepmom, wife, daughter, daycare provider, even though that will help me be a good T, is certainly isn't enough without the proper T training. and even that isn't a guarentee that that you will do a good job. I take this seriously, in fact if I find out others are doing the job without the proper training, I will not hesitate to turn them in. I am not working my *ss off to be a good T, when others are practicing without a liscense to do so.
I am a happy go luckey kind of women, who likes to have a lot of fun, but when it comes to my kids and my future, I do take them very seriously.
poster:happyflower
thread:795739
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